Many addicts new to recovery jump into relationships to avoid feeling alone. The sense of possibility that recovery brings you may make you. Trading Love Addiction For Meaningful Relationships. by Dawson McAllister Is this easy? No. It will take time to learn a whole new way of thinking and acting. Moushumi Ghose, MFT - If you find yourself leaping from one relationship to the next, you may be addicted to love. If so, you're going to have to.
You must have an accurate sense of who you are, your own identity. A great relationship starts with being comfortable with who God has made you to be and His dream for your life, and then allowing that to overflow into the life of another. Sarah Talk about your bend towards love addiction with friends or a minister or counselor.
Moving from Love Addiction to a Meaningful Relationship
Just talking about these things will help you more clearly understand yourself and realize you are not alone. Talk to someone who will talk loving, but straight with you. Life does go on.Love Addiction and Codependency
There is more to life than an addictive, toxic relationship. Without all the emotional panic and crazed feelings, you can begin to slow down and actually enjoy life for what it is. It will take time to learn a whole new way of thinking and acting.
The Psychology of Addictive Relationships
Work on developing new friendships with people from both sexes that do not have any romantic overtones to them. This will not only help fill the need for companionship, but will also help you understand what the opposite sex thinks and feels about the key issues of life.
You are no doubt tired. Finding new friends will help give you the rest and relief you need to look more clearly at yourself and think about the kind of person you would like to have a romantic relationship with.
Slowly work your way back into a dating relationship.
The important thing to remember here is to slow down and not force things. So slow down and let life come to you. God will fill the hole in our soul, and help lead us to the right person to date at the right time.
Develop a meaningful relationship with God. He is the only One who can give us peace and confidence when we feel alone. One way to accomplish this is to spend time getting to know our partners prior to becoming sexually or romantically involved with them.
If we emerge from dysfunctional homes, falling in love with someone soon after meeting them can cloud our vision and place us at risk of being with a partner with whom we repeat familiar, unhealthy patterns.
Getting to know someone whom we feel sexually attracted to without becoming sexual is a tall order, but one that is incredibly important for love addicts to adhere to. Love addicts need to live in reality. Only time and experiences with another person can provide us with this information. Therefore, a non-addictive relationship will grow and become more settled over time, while an addictive one will burn out. Partners in an addictive relationship have extreme difficulty navigating normal relational difficulties as they arise, whereas partners in healthy relationships frequently navigate difficulties from the beginning.
In a love-addicted relationship, honesty is lacking, and the underlying truth regarding the dynamics of the relationship are not safe to talk about openly. This is a relationship that lacks true intimacy.
True intimacy involves the ability to talk openly about fears, concerns, and topics that delve beyond the surface, and which are risky to discuss.
It does not involve blaming or deflecting to avoid taking responsibility that is so characteristic of an addictive relationship. In early childhood, addicts often found that it was not safe to be authentic and real with another person.